by Michael Shaw
The Formula is…
You are a newly hired employee in a field which was a personal goal of yours. You show up to your first day buzzing, excited, and ready to explore opportunities and take on challenges. How is it that very same individual described above, just a few years later, is so frustrated or angry that they begin looking for an exit? Or worse, that same individual with the same frustration or anger did not leave; instead they swallowed their anger and, in its place, they find abject apathy. Several years back I was introduced to a formula, “frustration leads to anger; unresolved anger leads to apathy." I agree with, have been witness to, and personally experienced this formula. I suspect, so have most of you. What is truly disappointing to me is not this formula but how well travelled this path appears to be within the Army.
The emotions of frustration, anger, and apathy are not unavoidable, nor should these emotions be avoided. For through self-acknowledgment of these emotions within ourselves and peers, we can begin to tackle his formula and the impacts it has on individuals and the organization. One can almost break apart this formula and apply the emotions of frustration, anger, and apathy to stages in ones’ career; frustration - entry through year six, anger – year seven through fifteen, and apathy - years sixteen and beyond. While not supported through research or scholarship at this time, the identification of such stratified professional ranges should cause us to pause and ignite a desire to reflect. For if not addressed and reversed, this formula compounds upon itself and leads to a couple of outcomes; 1) early departure from service with an overall negative experience or 2) continued employment with less than optimal production capability because of varying levels of apathy or any one of the synonyms that accompany this adjective (indifference, insensitivity, lethargy, aloofness, coolness, detachment disinterest dispassion, etc.). Both of which result in a loss of talent and capacity, a critical and challenging resource to come by for an organization that requires bottom-up growth and is hierarchical in structure.
Moreover, this formula is not an Einbahnstraße. Professionals move across this formula spectrum on a regular basis. Singular events, personal interactions, and decisions within our professional environment influence where we reside. The amount of iterations and the length of time spent at each emotional stage acts as a self-conditioning program. The more often we become frustrated, the easier it is to become frustrated. Just like levels of addiction, one becomes numb to the ever-common feelings of frustration they feel and because of the numbness that is now experienced an elevation to anger begins. For the sake of self-perseveration, once anger mounts to a breaking point, the individual must decide either to find a way to dismantle their anger to move forward or for mere personal survival, convert that anger into apathy. For the good of both the people and the organization, we must become more adept to identifying the stages in this formula for which we all reside and assist one another in the movements forward and backward.
Frustration
“In the beginning…” there is energy, excitement and a whole lot of not knowing. The commencement of a new career inspires learning and the development of individual and group habits that will carry forward. Yet, many people end up viewing this beginning as a time of continual frustration instead of continual challenges. Many newbies want to help put their mark on their organization, I certainly did. However, except for the rarest of the rare, none of us knew our fronts from our backs. (some like me still struggle with our lefts from our rights). Service in the Army is unique, in that, no one has ever served in similar positions before. The newly enlisted Soldier has no rank nor positional authority, many new Warrant Officers knew what it was like to be a Soldier but struggle to balance the role of officer and technical expert. The Officers, new to the Army and new to their trade poses positional authority over everyone in their team but not the experience. Through these experiential and educational shortcomings, it is not hard to see how frustration can creep into daily events. While emotion frustration remains an individual emotion, it is essential for the community to realize that by looking at an emotional experience felt by the majority of a peer group, the experienced emotion impacts all. Moreover, it is not the fact that frustration exists, instead, it is how these new professionals interact with the feeling of frustration that will directly impact their emotional transformation.
The experiences that generate emotional frustration are never alike in their cause. The difficulty of the job, lacking professional encouragement, minimal guidance, or absence of organizational change regardless of effort are all possible elements that affect individuals differently. Peer interaction and the sharing of shared experiences is one way to mitigate experienced frustration. The chain of command provides another outlet. How one perceives these events and how individuals dissect and categorizes them (challenges, tests, experiments, or trials) directly affects the rendering of emotion.
No one is immune to the entanglements frustration can produce, and those who find themselves within its grip take one of two paths 1) depart the profession with a feeling of unpleasantness or 2) choose to continue to serve in the hopes of finding salvation through elevation in rank or position. Unfortunately, many who look for organizational change to become the driving force in their professional satisfaction most often discover a negative shift as opposed to a positive. In this shift, we begin to see continual frustration transforming into anger, and the Army experiences its first exodus of the force.
Anger
Onto stage two. With the increase in rank comes increases in positional responsibility and authority. For everyone, the cycle of frustration to anger to apathy begins again. The remaining variable is, to what degree have personnel managed their frustrations and peaks of anger during their initial professional development. New situations, familiar difficulties, greater responsibility, all of which respond to the emotional muscle memory of previous experiences.
The vital question to ask oneself is, where do I currently exist inside this formula? If able to depart stage one with the emotions of frustration under control then, while encountering new, broader, and increasingly complex challenges one’s new contexts will be of noticeable variation. Those that decided to continue in the profession but remain unable to deal with their frustrations beyond burying them beneath their emotional surface will now encounter obstacles that have an increased possibility of transforming into anger. We have all worked with or for that individual who has refused to come to a resolution with prior experiences and only magnifies present events by compounding the emotional connections. Here one can begin to see the further breakdown caused by experiential anger. Opportunities for dialogue are dismissed out of hand, points of differing perspectives turn into defensive fighting positions to protect one's opinion, and stovepipes are reinforced with attempts of power consolidation. Instead of organizational success and a broader understanding, we begin to see weakness in single solitary positions and yet those weaknesses are whitewashed away and sometimes emboldened through parochial beliefs of success for one’s section at the expense of all else.
Apathy
During the latter part of one’s career, a second major bow wave of professional evacuations takes place. This time, self-selected departure and promotional non-selects comprise the bulk of attrition. This separation further divides the professional haves from the have-nots. Now, closer to the twilight of one’s career, professionals continue to function as molded. Here again, the formula of frustration to anger to apathy is either reset or carries along the continuum. Those that have found an ability to reset their perspectives and compartmentalize topics tend to become fewer and the forces of the formula pull even more laborious. Here the adage of 10% of the workforce doing 90% of the work appears to carry more weight.
While this is not a complete correlation, the divide becomes apparent. There are those who are merely going through the motions, moving paperwork from one side of the desk to another, inhibiting or just ambivalent to any real progress vs. those who want to impart actual change and fight through the friction. Look to any large-scale organizational shift within the past five years, and it becomes readily apparent as to who is seeking to overcome resistance as opposed to those who are institutionally apathetic. Moreover, these apathetic organizational veterans are inflicting damage twofold, 1) they hold seniority in the organization and thus hold leadership positions or manage directorates that manage programs, dollars or people, 2) all the newly hired possessing that same buzz and excitement they once felt are looking up to these individuals asking themselves, is this where I want to be in 15-20 years?
Conclusion
What remains intriguing is how this formula (frustration to anger and anger to apathy), touches everyone but only devours some. Moreover, how this emotional journey is solely controlled by the perspective of the individual and yet has operational impacts from team to entire commands. Also, for both professional and personal stability, one should avoid stagnation in any one of those three emotional states. Regardless of the motivation that anger might provide in problem-solving, we have all been around that individual who knows no other emotion. Thus, every problem regardless of its trivial nature or strategic impacts becomes a point for a pre-programmed emotional response.
Where frustration lies at one end of the spectrum and apathy at the other, self-awareness becomes the map legend for which we can identify our present location. Just like navigation, once one's current position is recognized, only then can a useful decision be put into action.